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Jul. 27th, 2004

You know how there are times when you are able to explain yourself with such precision that it startles even you when you look back and read what you wrote?

I just had a moment like that:

fanlain said "Give it and yourself time. If she loved you, she'd understand."

To which I quipped:
I don't care if she says she loves me or not anymore, because apparently her definition of love is far far inferior to the feelings that I had for her. This was demonstrated by the sheer simplicity with which she decided to tromp on my heart with a crowbar formed of the words: "I want to break up."

If she loved me, she would have understood, she would have said something else, she would have tried to work it out. I looked at it with one question in my mind; "Do I love her enough to try to work this out?", and my answer was invariably yes. Right up until the moment that she proved irrevocably that she did not love me in the same capacity. If she loved me, should would have shown it by saying something other than "I want to break up."

She can move on with her love, life, and persuit of happiness. I'm not part of it anymore and I wouldn't want to be after the infantile way in which she handled my emotions.

I intend to give myself time. But I've already wasted more time on that particular 'it' than has been needed or apparently even more than was wanted. I'm not going to devote my time to attempting to reconcile with someone like that.

Heather, I hope you're reading this. I know you read the last 2, I have trackers on them.


* Xander the not so spiteful, but very bitter.


Jul. 30th, 2004 02:59 pm (UTC)
Re: Thank you. :)
I guess I just don't understand how she could feel as much for me as I did if she was willing to be that disrespectful of my feelings.

I wonder if we're going to see her out at a club anytime soon. I'm guessing not. That would cause confrontation.

Heather simply wasn't determined to keep trying. She was determined to have a good relationship and if it didn't look like it was going to be, she broke things off. Those are her words, not mine.

I don't see how me keeping tabs on my readers is creepy. It's my journal and I like to know who I'm talking to when I post something 'public'. I, personally, find it creepy that she still was reading my journal.

Jul. 30th, 2004 03:02 pm (UTC)
Re: Thank you. :)
fear and love are so incompatible.

keeping tabs on your readers doesn't qualify so much as creepy. it was the whole--"i know you're reading me" thing that was creepy to me.

i don't see why it is creepy that she was reading your journal. if anything, it seems to me that it means she really does care.
Jul. 30th, 2004 03:13 pm (UTC)
Re: Thank you. :)
I don't need proof that she cares. I know she cares/cared. What I do need is for her to either leave me alone and stay out of my life, or at least respect me enough to have a face to face talk.

I don't find it creepy that I informed her that I knew she was reading it. I find it far, far more creepy that she was still reading my journal and -not commenting- a week and a half after she dumped me.

That's like telling a stalker that you're aware of their stalking.

Fear and love are incompatible, on that we certainly agree.

Jul. 30th, 2004 04:08 pm (UTC)
Re: Thank you. :)
I guess I should have phrased it like this:
I keep track of who reads my journal.

I didn't specifically track those two entries looking to see if she read them. I checked my hit-log and was rather surprised to see her IP on it.


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