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Jul. 27th, 2004

You know how there are times when you are able to explain yourself with such precision that it startles even you when you look back and read what you wrote?

I just had a moment like that:

fanlain said "Give it and yourself time. If she loved you, she'd understand."

To which I quipped:
I don't care if she says she loves me or not anymore, because apparently her definition of love is far far inferior to the feelings that I had for her. This was demonstrated by the sheer simplicity with which she decided to tromp on my heart with a crowbar formed of the words: "I want to break up."

If she loved me, she would have understood, she would have said something else, she would have tried to work it out. I looked at it with one question in my mind; "Do I love her enough to try to work this out?", and my answer was invariably yes. Right up until the moment that she proved irrevocably that she did not love me in the same capacity. If she loved me, should would have shown it by saying something other than "I want to break up."

She can move on with her love, life, and persuit of happiness. I'm not part of it anymore and I wouldn't want to be after the infantile way in which she handled my emotions.

I intend to give myself time. But I've already wasted more time on that particular 'it' than has been needed or apparently even more than was wanted. I'm not going to devote my time to attempting to reconcile with someone like that.

Heather, I hope you're reading this. I know you read the last 2, I have trackers on them.


* Xander the not so spiteful, but very bitter.


Jul. 29th, 2004 07:10 pm (UTC)
She's not going to get any coaxing from me. Of any sort. Not now, not next week, not next month. Never.

I don't give that sort of second chance to people that trample my heart.

It was not a happy ending, nor do I expect to have it improve. But it was an ending, and not just a pause.

Jul. 30th, 2004 04:24 am (UTC)
only the ppl you love have the ability to hurt you the worst. if you never expect to allow someone you love to hurt you, then dont fall in love
Jul. 30th, 2004 12:00 pm (UTC)
Dear, you're heading off into left field.

It's not that I'm not giving her a second chance because she hurt me. It's that I'm not giving her a second chance because of -how- she hurt me. Due to the way in which she chose to handle it, I learned a bit more about how she operates. And I didn't like it. Not because it hurt (it did), but because it indicated to me a certain lack of moral principle that I feel to be necessary to an operational relationship.

I know love hurts. I know that the people that you love the most have the most capacity to hurt you. That doesn't mean that I have to be hurt to realize that the person loves me. I know she did/does. I just don't happen to believe anymore that her version of 'love' is equivalent to mine.


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