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Jul. 19th, 2004 02:07 am (UTC)
i'm sorry you're going through all of this hon. :^( a friend of mine is looking for room mates right now, i told him to im or email you. i hope that might help a bit. if you need me you can im me: decadentruin *hugs* sleep well.
Jul. 19th, 2004 03:19 pm (UTC)
ok, since i dont see this anywhere, and dont understand whats going on exactly:

what *did* you do, anyway?
Jul. 19th, 2004 08:35 pm (UTC)
You mean what sparked the whole floundering mess?

I disagreed with her. She disagreed with me. It escalated. She apparently doesn't forgive. Such is life.

Jul. 20th, 2004 02:56 pm (UTC)
yea, but you musta disagreed about other things before. so, if its not too personal, specifically, what was it this time? i mean, did you disagree on how to handle money? what kinda puppy to buy? or, like, if her mom is too fat or something like that? most ppl dont typically break off a good relationship over a disagreement that cant be resolved if it can be ignored [such as something that shouldnt interfere w/life too much and can be compromised]
Jul. 22nd, 2004 02:46 pm (UTC)
I don't think that it's so much 'what' we were disagreeing over, it was the fact that I wasn't willing to change my mind on an issue, and she wasn't willing to listen to me. She's never had a relationship last beyond the first major fight, so the fact that she and I lasted until fight #2 is apparently good enough for her.

I think that's really what it comes down to. I would hazard a guess that it's probably related to some rather deep issues about being forced to show a high level of emotion to another person. Whether those emotions are happy or mad didn't seem to be relevant.

Jul. 22nd, 2004 05:49 pm (UTC)
well, the cold truth then, is better sooner than later. if she's not the kinda person that understands that love doesnt mean you agree on things all the time, and get along all the time, and will never piss ea other off, and if she wont listen to you when you tell her that, then she's not ready to have a committed relationship. better to know that now than after you invest your entire life in her just to have her get bored of you. of course, if you really care for her, its still worth trying to see if she has a chg of heart, and is willing to understand that if you both agree you can still love ea other and be together. if she's never had a relat last after the first fight though, odds are slim that she'll chg now--you dont want to chg your opinion for her, bc its who you are, and you cant expect her to chg who she is. you can love her regardless. now go try again...remember, when you care about someone, there is no right/wrong, there is no pride, there's only your desire to be w/the person and be happy. you dont have to give yourself up, but make sure you wont have regrets later...
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