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Apr. 13th, 2004

Got an e-mail from my mother a day or two ago... I think it deserves publication here:

Hey Kids,
Guess what Dick did for my birthday! He got my name (in a heart) tatooed on his shoulder! This, from a serious academic who had never considered "body art" seriously!

Your incredulous Mommm

I'm rather split on the issue. Just the fact that he got her name tattooed in a heart on his shoulder tells me that he's serious, but also that while she maintains that he has 'never considered "body art" seriously, I still think that he hasn't taken it seriously. I can think of many better things that he could have done to himself for her on her birthday. First on that list would be that he could have quit drinking. Not just for the positive effect it would have on most people's view of him, but primarily on the effect that drinking less has on your body. He would have been giving her a 'healthier' him. Oh well.



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Apr. 14th, 2004 12:46 am (UTC)
well perhaps he considered it and figured getting a tatoo is a good small step b/c stopping drinking altogether might be a bit too hard for him - and that may not have anything to do with his feelings for your mom. it would have been a nice present - agreed - and one that i'm sure she'd probably also appreciate. but the tatoo might be one small step toward definitely trusting and getting serious with your mother. hopefully in time it could also mean drinking too. i wouldn't be too hard on him until you begin to understand why he drinks and show him lots of support. everyone has their own issues.

just my 2 pennies...
Apr. 14th, 2004 02:38 am (UTC)
I figured they were about as 'serious' as they were going to get when they got married.

I'd say that giving her more time with him by lengthening his life would definitely have something to do with his feelings for her. :) And it would certainly have been a better show of it to the rest of us than a gawdy tattoo that not only tells me that he wanted to do something for her birthday so he did something for himself, but also that he doesn't understand tattoos.

I will be hard on him for his drinking because he's not just damaging his liver, he's also causing mental anguish to my little sister. I don't see the need for 'support'ing a bad habit. I'll be happy to support him in quitting, but he hasn't shown the slightest bit of interest in that. In fact, when he and my mother offered to take me out for dinner in 2002 for my birthday, I stipulated only one thing: I would not go to some place that sold alcohol if Dick was coming. He opted not to come after that.

Nice to see you active at this time of morning by the way... :)

Apr. 14th, 2004 10:34 pm (UTC)
tattoo meaning
Tattoo meanings are socially constructed; consequently there's no such thing as "doesn't understand tattoos". Keep that ego in check.

I hope he quits, and soon.
Apr. 15th, 2004 10:01 am (UTC)
Re: tattoo meaning
Tattoo meanings are -not- "socially constructed". The 'meaning' of individual tattoos might be socially constructed, but the 'meaning' of body art in general is not. What I said was that I didn't think that he understood 'body art', not that I didn't think he understood his tattoo.

Keep my ego in check? What the hell does my ego have to do with any of this? I happen to have a bit more knowledge about the history and societal significance than our mother when it comes to tattoos. I don't think that it's my 'ego' talking when I state an opinion on a matter that I happen to know a bit about.

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