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Apr. 13th, 2006

In January my Grandmother LaVelle died. This morning my Grandfather John (her husband) died.

He was an amazing man. Was an Army Engineer, lost an eye, and came back to talk about it. Came back to marry a woman who had just gotten divorced on her own terms (unheard of in those days) who had 2 children. Together they had my mother. They spent their lives learning the real estate trade, collecting rocks, and raising a wonderful family. They still lived in the house where they met over 55 years later. I spent many christmas eves in that house as a child. There are still pencil marks on the kitchen doorway of how tall I was at age 8, 11, and 15.

That spinach never did put hair on my chest John. I'm going to have to arm-wrestle my own grandkids just so I can let them win too.

It's hard to find the words through all the tears.

Thank you for the punching bag, I did use it.

He was the last one of his generation left in my family. My father's parents have been dead for a while now (father since 1980, mother since 1993 I think). My mother isn't doing so well right now, having just lost both her parents in the span of 3 months.

I'm not doing so well having just lost the only grandparents I will ever have.

I will miss you John.
I love you more than I ever had words for.
I miss you already.


Live life while you have it. Not for your sake but for the people who care about you.

Comments

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phyxius
Apr. 13th, 2006 01:19 am (UTC)
Damn, you said it better than I ever could. Thanks for articulating that.

...there you went and made me cry too.
digitalgoth
Apr. 13th, 2006 01:21 am (UTC)
I'll see you in a couple days and we can cry together.
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mechagojira
Apr. 13th, 2006 06:59 am (UTC)

*hugs*
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viruswshoes
Apr. 13th, 2006 08:46 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Know that my thoughts are with you and yours at this time.
*hug*
childewolf
Apr. 13th, 2006 08:57 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry, sweetie. :(
bsittler
Apr. 13th, 2006 08:59 am (UTC)
my thoughts are with you. john was a decent human being and i feel lucky to have met him.

*hug*
lost1ntwilight
Apr. 13th, 2006 09:08 am (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. If there's anything I can do, or if you need a shoulder to cry on, just ask.
sorsha_malorius
Apr. 13th, 2006 10:27 am (UTC)
i'm very sorry to hear about your loss, dear.

you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

*loveNhugs*

should ya find yourself needing someone to talk to in the middle of the night, please call me. 512.289.3806
dndupree
Apr. 13th, 2006 10:41 am (UTC)
My heart goes out to you and your family Hold onto those memories and that love - it is priceless
archangelkhaos
Apr. 13th, 2006 11:03 am (UTC)
My condolances.
Remember him, and pass those memories on to your grandchildren.
missmerrick
Apr. 13th, 2006 11:12 am (UTC)
My thoughts are with you and your family. It sounds like your grandfather was quite a man.
capjbadger
Apr. 13th, 2006 12:07 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry man. I lost a grandfather too just last year. *huge hugs*
eviladmin
Apr. 13th, 2006 12:19 pm (UTC)
My condolences on the loss of your grandfather. It's particularly hard when the last contact with that generation goes. Thank you for the snapshot of your grandfather.
divia
Apr. 13th, 2006 01:17 pm (UTC)
Ouch! I'm sorry Jay. :(

Would it matter if I acted like a fool? I know it makes everyone else feel better! :)
water_of_fire
Apr. 13th, 2006 05:54 pm (UTC)
It always makes me feel better. See you Saturday night, right? :)
smws
Apr. 13th, 2006 07:22 pm (UTC)
Take care, Jay. Sorry to hear about this.

Hang in there.
water_of_fire
Apr. 14th, 2006 07:48 am (UTC)
As the closest person to you I never think I should actually respond to things like this, but this part strikes me: Live life while you have it. Not for your sake but for the people who care about you.

Yes please.

I love you.
wvwdarkladywvw
Apr. 15th, 2006 04:41 pm (UTC)
my condolences hon,
celebrate his life when it comes time
smile at his memorys keep them with you
his life will be a legacy that will with stand the gains of time.

*gives you a gargantuian bluebird hug*

-GinaLoree
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